Recommended Books

We have created a list of books and CD’s that you might find useful as a resource.

The list will be revised from time to time, so we suggest you bookmark this page for future reference. Our current recommendations include books for couples, parenting, and mind-body approaches to happiness and stress relief.

In Each Other’s Care: A Guide to the Most Common Relationship Conflicts and How to Work Through Them

Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT

Very few things are more frustrating than repeating the same fight with your partner. Playing out the same disagreement about money, parenting, sex, or household chores may leave you exhausted, cut off from the person you want to feel close to. While conflict in any relationship is inevitable, healing is possible. With In Each Other’s Care, Stan Tatkin shares a hands-on repair manual that will help you discover how arguments get triggered, why they keep happening, and what you can do to get better at communicating what you want without the drama.
Throughout In Each Other’s Care, Tatkin offers targeted lessons, sample dialogues, and heartfelt wisdom. Whether you’ve been in a relationship for years or are just beginning the journey, In Each Other’s Care is a wonderfully supportive guide that will show you how to work through even the most contentious topics with compassion and respect.

We Do: Saying Yes to a Relationship of Depth, True Connection, and Enduring Love

Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT

Common interests, physical attraction, shared values, and good communication skills are the factors most commonly thought to indicate a good partnership. Yet surprisingly, current research reveals that these are only a small part of what makes for a healthy marriage―much more important are psychological and biological influences. With We Do, you’ll learn to navigate these elements and more, giving your relationship the best possible chance to succeed.

In We Do, Tatkin provides a groundbreaking guide for couples. You’ll figure out whether you and your partner are right for each other in the long term, and if so, give your relationship a strong foundation so you can enjoy a secure and lasting love.

Wired for Love Book by Stan Tatkin

Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner’s Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship

Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT

Wired for Love is a complete insider’s guide to understanding a partner’s brain and promoting love and trust within a romantic relationship. Readers learn ten scientific principles they can use to avoid triggering fear and panic in their partners, manage their partners’ emotional reactions when they do become upset, and recognize when the brain’s threat response is hindering their ability to act in a loving way. Based in the sound science of neurobiology, attachment theory, and emotion regulation research, this book is essential reading for couples and others interested in understanding the complex dynamics at work behind love and trust in intimate relationships.

Your Brain on Love by Stan Tatkin

Your Brain on Love: The Neurobiology of Healthy Relationships

Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT

Shift Out of Conflict and into Connection, Safety, and Intimacy: “Improve your brain, improve your relationships.” That’s what Stan Tatkin has learned from his leading-edge work as a researcher and couples therapist. In this complete audio learning program, he merges current insights from neurobiology and attachment theory to help you shift out of conflict and into deeper and more loving connections.

You will first learn to identify attachment styles—the patterns of intimacy that begin in our earliest years—both in ourselves and in those around us. Then Dr. Tatkin will guide you through his proven principles and practices for building enduring security and commitment between couples, family members, and others that we love.

Wired for Dating by Stan Tatkin

Wired for Dating: How Understanding Neurobiology and Attachment Style Can Help You Find Your Ideal Mate

Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT

In the age of online dating, finding a real connection can see more daunting than ever! So, why not stack the odds of finding the right person in your favour? This book offers simple, proven-effective principles drawn from neuroscience and attachment theory to help you find the perfect mate.

In Wired for Dating, psychologist and relationship expert Stan Tatkin—author of Wired for Love—offers powerful tips based in neuroscience and attachment theory to help you find a compatible mate and go on to create a fabulous relationship.

The Seven Principles of Making Marriage Work

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert

John M. Gottman, Ph.D.

John Gottman has revolutionized the study of marriage by using rigorous scientific procedures to observe the habits of married couples in unprecedented detail over many years.

The Art of Loving by Erich Fromm

The Art of Loving

Erich Fromm – Harper & Row

Our approach has incorporated some of the core ideas presented in Fromm’s book, namely that love is an art, an activity that requires learning and mastery through disciplined practice.

Mindsight by Daniel Siegel M.D.


Daniel J. Siegel, M.D.

Through his synthesis of a broad range of scientific research with applications to everyday life, Dr. Siegel has developed novel approaches that have helped hundreds of patients free themselves from obstacles blocking their happiness. By cultivating mindsight (a kind of focused attention that allows us to see the internal workings of our own minds), all of us can affect positive, lasting changes in our brains — and our lives.

When the Body Says No - The Cost of Hidden Stress by Gabor Mate MD

When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress

Gabor Maté, M.D.

Drawing on scientific research and the author’s decades of experience as a practicing physician, this book provides answers to important questions about the effect of the mind-body link in illness and health. Dr. Maté explores the role that stress and one’s individual emotional makeup play in an area of common diseases.

The Whole Brain Child by Daniel Siegel MD

The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind, Survive Everyday Parenting Struggles, and Help Your Family Thrive

Daniel J. Siegel, M.D. & Tina Payne Bryson

Complete with clear explanations, age-appropriate strategies for dealing with day-to-day struggles, and illustrations that will help you explain these concepts to your child, The Whole-Brain Child shows you how to cultivate healthy emotional and intellectual development so that your children can lead balanced, meaningful, and connected lives.

Parenting from Inside Out

Parenting from the Inside out: How a Deeper Self-Understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive

Daniel J. Siegel, M.D. & Mary Hartzell, M.Ed.

This book shows parents how to understand and integrate experiences from their own childhood into a nurturing style of parenting that promotes healthy communication, meaningful attachment, and trust.

Active Parenting Now

Active Parenting Now in 3: Your Three-Part Guide to a Great Family

Michael H. Popkin, Ph.D.

With this friendly and action-oriented guide, Dr. Michael Popkin reveals how you can improve your family life and make the job of parenting easier.

Parenting Your 1- 4-Year Old

Parenting Your 1- to 4-Year-Old

Michael H. Popkin, Ph.D.

This is a well-developed, one-stop parenting book for the busy new parent who has to grab a minute here or there to read some ideas for a happier and healthier interacting child. This Parents’ Workbook shows you how to discipline your young children without hitting them.

Doc Pop's 52 Weeks of Active Parenting

Doc Pop’s 52 Weeks of Active Parenting: Proven Ways to Build a Healthy and Happy Family

Michael H. Popkin, Ph.D.

And easy and fun way to make Active Parenting ideas a part of your family’s daily life.

Active Parenting Now

Active Parenting Now: For Parents of Children Ages 5 to 12

Michael H. Popkin, Ph.D.

Dr. Michael Popkin shows you how to develop courage, responsibility and character in your children.

Active Parenting of Teens

Active Parenting of Teens

Michael H. Popkin, Ph.D.

This book covers the time-honoured basics of parenting a teen while also addressing today’s hot topics. You’ll learn what’s going on in a teen’s head, and why they do the things they do.

You’ll learn how to open up lines of communication, encourage cooperation and responsibility, solve problems and discipline effectively. This book also presents 10 strategies for preventing problems relating to drugs, alcohol, violence and sex.