Recommended Books
We have created a list of books and CD’s that you might find useful as a resource.
The list will be revised from time to time, so we suggest you bookmark this page for future reference. Our current recommendations include books for couples, parenting, and mind-body approaches to happiness and stress relief.
In Each Other’s Care: A Guide to the Most Common Relationship Conflicts and How to Work Through Them
Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT
We Do: Saying Yes to a Relationship of Depth, True Connection, and Enduring Love
Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT
Common interests, physical attraction, shared values, and good communication skills are the factors most commonly thought to indicate a good partnership. Yet surprisingly, current research reveals that these are only a small part of what makes for a healthy marriage―much more important are psychological and biological influences. With We Do, you’ll learn to navigate these elements and more, giving your relationship the best possible chance to succeed.
In We Do, Tatkin provides a groundbreaking guide for couples. You’ll figure out whether you and your partner are right for each other in the long term, and if so, give your relationship a strong foundation so you can enjoy a secure and lasting love.
Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner’s Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship (Second Edition)
Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT
“What the heck is my partner thinking?” “Why do they always react like this?” “How can we get back that connection we had in the beginning?” If you’ve ever asked yourself these questions, you aren’t alone, and it doesn’t mean that your relationship is doomed. Every person is wired for love differently—with different habits, needs, and reactions to conflict. The good news is that most people’s minds work in predictable ways and respond well to security, attachment, and routines, making it possible to neurologically prime the brain for greater love and connection and fewer conflicts. This go-to guide will show you how.
Drawn from neuroscience, attachment theory, and emotion regulation, this highly anticipated second edition of Wired for Love presents cutting-edge research on how and why love lasts, and offers ten guiding principles that can improve any relationship. This fully revised and updated edition also includes new guidance on how to manage disagreements, as well as new exercises to help you create a sense of safety and security, establish healthy conflict ground rules, and deal with the threat of the third—any outside source which threatens the harmony in your relationship, including in-laws, alcohol, children, and affairs.
Your Brain on Love: The Neurobiology of Healthy Relationships
Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT
Shift Out of Conflict and into Connection, Safety, and Intimacy: “Improve your brain, improve your relationships.” That’s what Stan Tatkin has learned from his leading-edge work as a researcher and couples therapist. In this complete audio learning program, he merges current insights from neurobiology and attachment theory to help you shift out of conflict and into deeper and more loving connections.
You will first learn to identify attachment styles—the patterns of intimacy that begin in our earliest years—both in ourselves and in those around us. Then Dr. Tatkin will guide you through his proven principles and practices for building enduring security and commitment between couples, family members, and others that we love.
Wired for Dating: How Understanding Neurobiology and Attachment Style Can Help You Find Your Ideal Mate
Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT
In the age of online dating, finding a real connection can see more daunting than ever! So, why not stack the odds of finding the right person in your favour? This book offers simple, proven-effective principles drawn from neuroscience and attachment theory to help you find the perfect mate.
In Wired for Dating, psychologist and relationship expert Stan Tatkin—author of Wired for Love—offers powerful tips based in neuroscience and attachment theory to help you find a compatible mate and go on to create a fabulous relationship.
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert
John M. Gottman, Ph.D.
John Gottman has revolutionized the study of marriage by using rigorous scientific procedures to observe the habits of married couples in unprecedented detail over many years.
Mindsight
Daniel J. Siegel, M.D.
Through his synthesis of a broad range of scientific research with applications to everyday life, Dr. Siegel has developed novel approaches that have helped hundreds of patients free themselves from obstacles blocking their happiness. By cultivating mindsight (a kind of focused attention that allows us to see the internal workings of our own minds), all of us can affect positive, lasting changes in our brains — and our lives.
When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress
Gabor Maté, M.D.
Drawing on scientific research and the author’s decades of experience as a practicing physician, this book provides answers to important questions about the effect of the mind-body link in illness and health. Dr. Maté explores the role that stress and one’s individual emotional makeup play in an area of common diseases.
The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind, Survive Everyday Parenting Struggles, and Help Your Family Thrive
Daniel J. Siegel, M.D. & Tina Payne Bryson
Complete with clear explanations, age-appropriate strategies for dealing with day-to-day struggles, and illustrations that will help you explain these concepts to your child, The Whole-Brain Child shows you how to cultivate healthy emotional and intellectual development so that your children can lead balanced, meaningful, and connected lives.
Parenting from the Inside out: How a Deeper Self-Understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive
Daniel J. Siegel, M.D. & Mary Hartzell, M.Ed.
This book shows parents how to understand and integrate experiences from their own childhood into a nurturing style of parenting that promotes healthy communication, meaningful attachment, and trust.
Parenting Your 1- to 4-Year-Old
Michael H. Popkin, Ph.D.
This is a well-developed, one-stop parenting book for the busy new parent who has to grab a minute here or there to read some ideas for a happier and healthier interacting child. This Parents’ Workbook shows you how to discipline your young children without hitting them.
Active Parenting of Teens
Michael H. Popkin, Ph.D.
This book covers the time-honoured basics of parenting a teen while also addressing today’s hot topics. You’ll learn what’s going on in a teen’s head, and why they do the things they do.
You’ll learn how to open up lines of communication, encourage cooperation and responsibility, solve problems and discipline effectively. This book also presents 10 strategies for preventing problems relating to drugs, alcohol, violence and sex.